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The saddest news, which mars the great triumph of last night, is that it looks like California, by a slim majority, voted to accept hate and bigotry into their state constitution. It is a huge step back for equal marriage rights, but it’s more personal than that. Today, hundreds of couples in California who yesterday were married, are weeping. Trying to console one another.
The ludicrous system which allows CA residents to vote on civil rights on the ballot, to amend their constitution so easily, has allowed hate to flourish and triumph. The big news is that if a right wing religion from another state spends a decade and millions of dollars, they can rip loved ones apart and take away their dignity, their right to be there for each other at the end of life or in the hospital, they can encode their hate into constitutional law.
But this is a marathon, as I have said elsewhere. This is not over. To my gay brothers and sisters, I say, mourn today. And I give this advice. Don’t leave your pain in the dark, with your friends and allies and partners. Let the country see what they have done. Let the sundering of the civil bond between already married partners in California shine in the spotlight. Let them see your sorrow. At work, on the television, at the movies, on the street, in the park. Let them see you cry. Don’t hide from this hate. Show us how you love. How you hurt.
I say that if you do not shrink back from this, if you boldly come before Californians, the American people with your heart showing, there will be a backlash against hate. There will be human beings who will see themselves in your shoes, though they never thought to change their attitude or be your ally. Yours is the human story, a human struggle. Let us see.
As I write this, my throat’s constricted, my eyes are wet. Let them feel it. Let them see. Let them see.
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November 5th, 2008 at 9:57 am
I agree with you completely Lynne. Although I lean republican on most other issues I don’t understand why we would want to deny a civil marriage to gay couples. How can it possibly effect our lives in any way? Obviously, if a religious denomination opposes gay marriage and doesn’t allow it that is within their rights. But to deny a civil ceremony makes no sense to me. I do have to point out that Barack Obama opposes gay marriage. Obama supports civil unions but not gay marriage. He was on the Ellen Degeneres show during the campaign and he did clearly stated that on her program. I felt pretty bad for her. She and her partner should have the same rights as the rest of us. All Americans should have the right to experience the good and the bad of “wedded bliss”. It seems rather mean spirited to me. You can’t blame the republicans for this one when Obama doesn’t support gay marriage and California voted Democrat. Look on the bright side. Gay marriage is still legal and available somewhere in the United States. This vote will keep the new gay marriage economy in Massachusetts. It won’t move out to California. Weddings are expensive endeavors and they’re spending money in our state. It’s been a boon for our hotel/function industry. And let’s face it, we need all the help we can get. Although I would have rather seen it remain legal in California I’m glad its legal somewhere.
November 5th, 2008 at 12:50 pm
I agree and we have a long way to go, when our leaders don’t feel like they can come out for full gay marriage rights. Kerry didn’t, not until long after he wasn’t running for preznit.
Yes, thank goodness for MA! Still a shining beacon in the bleak night.
CA will come back from this, in some form or fashion. If it was so close, and so easy to change the constitution, it’ll be hard work but possible to change it back.
Time to go on the offensive I think, let’s put this back on the ballot there and organize.
November 5th, 2008 at 3:10 pm
This vote is an absolute disgrace. There is a reason we have the courts, to rule when something is right but not popular. Honestly has gay marriage had any negative impact in this state at all? Please. Society has gone on just fine giving equal marriage rights to all.
What happened to live and let live and minding your own damn business? I guess I shouldn’t be surprised, look who they elected governor.
November 5th, 2008 at 3:44 pm
Who actually decided not to sign the legislation that passed that would have legalized gay marriage in CA a while back. Bastard. For all that he supposedly supports gay rights. But, party over truth I guess with him.
November 7th, 2008 at 2:24 pm
And let’s be honest about the Governator, he has probably topped out in politics. Where else can he go, the senate? He can’t be president. What would it have cost him politically to sign that bill? Nothing. Its not like he needs the job as governor for the money. So much for conviction.
November 7th, 2008 at 2:32 pm
I don’t understand it, as he seems to be for gay rights…I can’t possibly figure it out.
Let’s cross our fingers that the ballot init as passed is unconstitutional. It appears gay marriage advocates have a real case for that.